What's on your mind today?

[Archon]

Bought and mounted new tires, plus the service has been scheduled for next Thursday (should be done the same day). Filled it up with petrol and drove around for a bit. So far, very pleased.

 

[Recharge]

God damn it! I am getting over a nasty flu and haven't been able to do anything in 3/4 days apart from work. Finally making the playlists for 2022 and I really hate when re-releases end up in my end of month mixes - now I have to screen/check every single song to make sure it's only 2022 releases.

Edit: Good thing I have all my playlists uploaded here which will speed the playlists making to a single night. I will be able to do top10 tonight.

 

[Bobby Summa]

Yessss! 🫶

 

[Jetflag]

Best wishes for 2023 everyone!

 

[Archon]

Have a good 'un!

 

[Progrez]

Horrible start to 2023 for me

Car Broke down due to shitty tyre, Taxi driver took more 4 hours to get to us to pick up. Only to find out the battery went flat and the other tyre also went flat so we drove at 40km/h because we had emergency tyre and I was horned loudly at by massive semi trailers.

I just want to ask a question. Do you guys believe we in the matrix? Modern day work feels like slavery. Over here I have worked with people who are escapists and they use religion as a weapon to brainwash you now before someone says I am posting a conspiracy well you haven't had your perception controlled before.

 

[Jetflag]

Do you guys believe we in the matrix?

Kinda.. there’s some good philosophy behind it, but unfortunately nothing more then that.


also: it wouldn’t really matter. Within “the simulation” you’d still be obliged to adhere to its rules, just like “actual” reality

 

[dmgtz96]

I just want to ask a question. Do you guys believe we in the matrix? Modern day work feels like slavery. Over here I have worked with people who are escapists and they use religion as a weapon to brainwash you now before someone says I am posting a conspiracy well you haven't had your perception controlled before

I'd be concerned with that specific terminology. There is no shortage of wackos who insist that we are living in "the matrix", and the most famous one is currently arrested in Romania.

Edit: on the boyinaband video. I think we as the human race are more likely to destroy one another via nuclear weapons, wars, mass unemployment, hunger, and water shortage before we reach the level where technology can simulate nature.

 

[Jetflag]

Eh… I’m a bit more optimistic then that. I think that, on cosmic timescales, we’re quite close to becoming multi planetairy. And we’ve been, despite the moans of yearly doommongerers, a lot closer to species extinction then this day and age (paleo extinction, Cuban crisis etc.)

 

[Jetflag]

I'd be concerned with that specific terminology.

Yes because Andrew Tate said it once the entire concept is all of a sudden “problematic”.

 

[dmgtz96]

Yes because Andrew Tate said it once the entire concept is all of a sudden “problematic”.

Well, yes. You don't think others are going to latch onto that concept?
It's not a stretch to think that another "influencer' will want to take over Andrew Tate's fanbase by pushing more of the same crap.

 

[Jetflag]

Well, yes. You don't think others are going to latch onto that concept?
It's not a stretch to think that another "influencer' will want to take over Andrew Tate's fanbase by pushing more of the same crap.

I heard he also thinks water is wet at room temperature, clearly that must be a dangerous idea now. I mean it’s Tate that thinks it right? Something he and Hilter share in common!

look, the idea of simulated realities has been around as a philosophical concept since renal dick art Rene dechartes. You really gonna let Andrew beeping Tate hijack that now do you? You’re giving him waaaay to much credit there m8

 

[dmgtz96]

I heard he also thinks water is wet at room temperature, clearly that must be a dangerous idea now. I mean it’s Tate that thinks it right? Something he and Hilter share in common!

look, the idea of simulated realities has been around as a philosophical concept since renal dick art Rene dechartes. You really gonna let Andrew beeping Tate hijack that now do you? You’re giving him waaaay to much credit there m8

I'll take your word that those concepts have been around for a while, but I am cynical enough to think that anyone pushing ideas about "the matrix" is somehow related to men's rights/alpha male/pick up artist/andrew tate/"disenfranchised men" bullshit

Doubly so if this is coming from a youtuber or tiktoker

 

[Bobby Summa]

Horrible start to 2023 for me

Car Broke down due to shitty tyre, Taxi driver took more 4 hours to get to us to pick up. Only to find out the battery went flat and the other tyre also went flat so we drove at 40km/h because we had emergency tyre and I was horned loudly at by massive semi trailers.

I just want to ask a question. Do you guys believe we in the matrix? Modern day work feels like slavery. Over here I have worked with people who are escapists and they use religion as a weapon to brainwash you now before someone says I am posting a conspiracy well you haven't had your perception controlled before.

Don’t let that start to the year make you think it means anything significant man. Doesn’t matter if it happened then or in 4 months. A day is a day. The only relavance it has is the things you ‘ know’ it effected. Ie. You saw some twats, you were late getting to where you were going and you were pissed off with it. All normal stuff.
Matrix. There are many ways we can apply a theory, in a way our matrix could be the rules and laws that govern the universe from a spiritual perspective ( if they exist) Things like Karma which i don’t fully understand because I don’t belive the, do good, get good stuff. I just think karma is ( potentialy) a force we generate through our actions which takes us in a certain direction. In that sense, we create our own matrix. I hear about other spiritual laws but the issue with all that side of things is fully understanding it. But what ever governs us. Its actually in the end. Us. We just don’t really see it. Off course there are things out of our control but I believe in a more earthy tangable way, its down to how we have developed as a human as to how we deal with it. There is such thing as bad luck with unforseen things happening no one could control but if we strive to be people who can deal with things easier, which sometimes requires seeing through the shit, we might see that its really up to us to develop ourselves and be someone who can enjoy what life has to offer. Because i sometimes think it offers us ( almost) everything we could want, but certainly everything we should need. So if we want to change something, you gotta develop an awareness of the real issues.

This is all perhaps easy for me to think as i live in a fairly free country compared to some. Those countries with devastating wars and lack of human rights are propper hard places i would imagine to find our peace.

final words. Don’t give up.

There.
Sunday serman over. 🫶

 

[Jetflag]

I'll take your word that those concepts have been around for a while, but I am cynical enough to think that anyone pushing ideas about "the matrix" is somehow related to men's rights/alpha male/pick up artist/andrew tate/"disenfranchised men" bullshit

Doubly so if this is coming from a youtuber or tiktoker

I don’t think @Progrez got that from Andrew Tate m8.. I think he’s just bringing up an interesting concept regarding the nature of reality

the idea of “a matrix” (so in the context of Tate, this is how the world works and this it’s structure). Is something widely adopted by many. The church utilises that concept in the worldstacking of heaven, earth, hell and the atonement of sin, feminism has its version with “the patriarchy” etc.

edit:
its actually a well accepted physics theory. The idea that our 3D universe is factually a holographic projection of an underlying 2D universe.

Holographic principle - Wikipedia

en.m.wikipedia.org

 

[Bobby Summa]

Warning: This may be a heavy and difficult read.

Im afraid.
I live with my fiancé and her trans son/daughter. Their 17 years old and 18 in march.

My step son/daughter returns tomorrow evening from their dad who moved from our town in England, 1000 miles to Slovakia a year ago. My fiancé me and my step son live in England.

Il refer to them as a him for ease sake.

I love him. But his Autism and ADHD in particular PDA which means pathological demand avoidance is so hard to deal with. He is 17. Extremely intelligent. He is loving. Sometimes like a best friend. But . I can’t handle that he continually makes a massive mess everywhere in the flat and NEVER cleans and tidies up afterwards, how ever what manner we ask him. Usually its a complete mess in the kitchen involving tons of washing up.


The last year he has been with us 98% of the time. I suffer from exhaustion due to complications with Covid19 which i got 2 years ago. Plus have postural hypotension (blood pressure drops drastically on doing certain activities) and very low iron levels in my blood which also affects energy levels. I also have had a growth on my bladder causing pain and doctors dont know what it is despite tests.
knowing this makes no difference to him. He wont clear up how ever we ask him. Im not able to currently work. I can’t leave these messes for my girlfriend to clear up as when she returns from work she gets understandably so stressed when she sees a mess as having things tidy to a normal level helps her feel good and she cant stand mess.

If im honest, its the anger i feel that effects me the most as i dwell on his complete dis regard of things. I have principles. Im a very sensitive person. Anger can make you ill though.
( just incase your worried i am the least violent person i know)

I could actually go on and on and on and on about the difficulties and situations that my step son has created but the bottline is. I love him and understand ( to some extent) the difficulties he faces due to his Autism and ADHD. He also has a bit of OCD has anxiety and depression and was suicidal in the summer a year and a half ago. But its so good that in the last year my step sons mental health has improved.
His dad also was suicidal at some point( can’t remember exactly when but in the last 3 years) He also had a cocaine addiction which we believe ( hope) he has mostly dealt with and no longer is using cocaine regularly ( although did once when visiting England recently).

I really am scared. He returns tomorrow evening. The last two weeks without him have been so good for me and my fiancé. She has shown a lot of happiness and i have felt very happy also. Its been lovely.

In the last year having him almost 100% of the time has really improved his mental health as he didn’t swap between his dad and us. His dad used to live a ten minute walk away but now lives in another country 1000 miles away.

I have grown as a person due to trying to be more aware of who i am and how life works which is something i like to do anyway having in the past before i met my fiancé experienced 15 years of mild schizophrenia and really don’t want to struggle at life in that way again. I also try to develop myself in character in order to help deal with my step son.

On top of everything my fiancé and i have big intimacy issues ( we were intimate only twice last year) but we have been open and constructive about this and i am now encouraged by the work we are doing to resolve this and conversations have revealed that progress has been made and off this i am very encouraged.

We are great together and love each other very much. The love she has shown me recently when looking after me has been so wonderful.

I sincerely apologise if you have read this and feel heavy now, but thats why i put the warning at the beginning. I also apologise to admin if ive been too heavy but ive never asked anyone for help in this way online and fortunately or un fortunately i am a frighteningly open and honest person who can not hide their feelings.

My step son returns tomorrow evening.

So. What do i do to maintain the peace and happiness we have experienced while he was away?

 

[Progrez]

I don’t think @Progrez got that from Andrew Tate m8.. I think he’s just bringing up an interesting concept regarding the nature of reality

the idea of “a matrix” (so in the context of Tate, this is how the world works and this it’s structure). Is something widely adopted by many. The church utilises that concept in the worldstacking of heaven, earth, hell and the atonement of sin, feminism has its version with “the patriarchy” etc.

edit:
its actually a well accepted physics theory. The idea that our 3D universe is factually a holographic projection of an underlying 2D universe.

Holographic principle - Wikipedia

en.m.wikipedia.org

Don't know who Andrew tate is and I had to look him up. People were comparing his thing to Neo that's some fucked up thing. No wonder seeing that stuff can screw up your mind. I was referring to because after seeing the speech from a former facebook owner that we are all being programmed.

 

[Jetflag]

So. What do i do to maintain the peace and happiness we have experienced while he was away?

So: to try and steel-man your situation a bit: (and correct me if i'm wrong)

- you're living with a women you love, who has a loving but very difficult son (going through puberty) who's out of neccesity living with you and who's behavior is exhausting to you on top of your fysical problems aswell as taking up "spacetime" for you and your future wife.

^if that is correct then (and please take this with a grain of salt as this is in no way proffesional doctor siegmund carl jetflag freud jung speaking here) there's a couple of things you can do.

1 shorten your time frame depending on the pressure.
if living for a couple of more years (till he's old enough to have his own place) is to much for you, try doing it for a month, if thats to much, go day by day, if thats to much, take it one minute at a time etc.

2 reserve time for you and your girl, even if its one hour in the morning where you have a cup of tea together, and cherish that as an island moment for the two of you for the rest of the week.

3 block of (a) space for yourself. this can be as small as your little studio. I had a similar problem living with 1 energetic toddler, a pregnant wife and her father in a 50m2 appartment a year ago. my "space" was my laptop at one corner of the dinner table. Nothing was allowed to touch that spot, not my kid, not my wife when she cleaned things, not when guests where around. Nothing. That was my place, and everyone kept there bloody hands of of it or face my "wrath" so to speak. This is where you recharge in the chaos that is the world around you, so you can face that chaos after recharging.

4 Meditate. 10 minutes each day at least, I recommend Sam Harris Waking up course. This is the universal salve at any point in time where things get difficult. you can see results as soon as 3 months in practicing.

5 Do cold shower therapy each morning, you won't believe what this will do for your overall energy levels. its basically fitness for every single bloodvessel in your system. build up gradually.

6 change your diet, and add suplements if necesairy. Food is your fuel, bad fuel = crashed car. healthy body = healthy mind.

those are all i can think of from the top of my head for you to try. all optional ofcourse.

Aside from that. Its ok to be scared of things that are hard. Courage is not having no fear. Courage is being afraid and still doing what you need to do, which you can.

good luck brother.

 

[Bobby Summa]

So: to try and steel-man your situation a bit: (and correct me if i'm wrong)

- you're living with a women you love, who has a loving but very difficult son (going through puberty) who's out of neccesity living with you and who's behavior is exhausting to you on top of your fysical problems aswell as taking up "spacetime" for you and your future wife.

^if that is correct then (and please take this with a grain of salt as this is in no way proffesional doctor siegmund carl jetflag freud jung speaking here) there's a couple of things you can do.

1 shorten your time frame depending on the pressure.
if living for a couple of more years (till he's old enough to have his own place) is to much for you, try doing it for a month, if thats to much, go day by day, if thats to much, take it one minute at a time etc.

2 reserve time for you and your girl, even if its one hour in the morning where you have a cup of tea together, and cherish that as an island moment for the two of you for the rest of the week.

3 block of (a) space for yourself. this can be as small as your little studio. I had a similar problem living with 1 energetic toddler, a pregnant wife and her father in a 50m2 appartment a year ago. my "space" was my laptop at one corner of the dinner table. Nothing was allowed to touch that spot, not my kid, not my wife when she cleaned things, not when guests where around. Nothing. That was my place, and everyone kept there bloody hands of of it or face my "wrath" so to speak. This is where you recharge in the chaos that is the world around you, so you can face that chaos after recharging.

4 Meditate. 10 minutes each day at least, I recommend Sam Harris Waking up course. This is the universal salve at any point in time where things get difficult. you can see results as soon as 3 months in practicing.

5 Do cold shower therapy each morning, you won't believe what this will do for your overall energy levels. its basically fitness for every single bloodvessel in your system. build up gradually.

6 change your diet, and add suplements if necesairy. Food is your fuel, bad fuel = crashed car. healthy body = healthy mind.

those are all i can think of from the top of my head for you to try. all optional ofcourse.

Aside from that. Its ok to be scared of things that are hard. Courage is not having no fear. Courage is being afraid and still doing what you need to do, which you can.

good luck brother.

Thank you Jetflag for your reply man.

Your understanding of my domestic situation is correct.

You have given some great advice. Its good to get advice from people who have been in similar kinds of situations or certain aspects of it. Thanks especially for the link to meditation. I have tried my entire life to meditate and always felt worse afterwards until recently when I actually was propper in a state of voluntary meditation for around a minute. But ive simply forgotten recently. I will search out the meditation you mentioned. Sometimes when i write music i feel im probably in an in-voluntary state of meditation. Usually with Ambient music.

Your advice on ‘me time’ is incredibly valuable. Recently and I assume this is because my step son understands i am getting interest from record labels. My step son has actually left me alone when i write music. This has helped my anger too as being disturbed when writing music put me in a state of high anger/frustration as i can only write music without disturbance as unless i do that i don’t reach deep levels of what id describe as a dream like but awake 100 % focused and relaxed state.


Luckily every morning we have a lie in from 7-8 as my step son is rarely up then as is often awake during the night ( he used to be loud but kinda gets now how important sleep is to me) He sometimes sleeps all day. His College is an issue because of that. He studies computer game’s design and loves coding. His dad is a back end coder. An extremely good one. He earns very good money but has big debts anyway.
Mostly from past cocaine activities.
Its a good thing I dont do any illegal drugs. My step son does enough of them but strangely he has improved during that period. Thankfully now though he sticks to dope. God i was worried the first time he did LSD, but he was fine strangely. I think me and my fiancé’s totally relaxed attitude to drugs ( because we or mostly me have been there done that when we were teenagers and it’s inevitable that most young people do it) has helped. Or to sumarise. Our experience and relaxed attitude helps as he only has smoked dope in the last 6 months.

Cold shower. - Fuck man, are you sure? I love water and have frequent 2 hour warm baths but the idea of a cold shower alarms me. But. I like to get fixed so you know what. When im a little better, i will try it. Or i might even try it now. (Possibly not today though as i feel totally refreshed from the last 2 weeks of peace)

Love your words about courage. Deffo agree.
Diet, yes some work can be done. I eat lots of green vegetables ( my fiancé is an awesome cook) but probably not enough fruit. I also used to have a bit of a sugar addiction and could spend £8 a day on sweets chocolate and ice cream when life was tough. This stopped around 4 months ago thankfully. I actually became dependent on sugar as felt physically aggravated if i didn’t eat nice sweet food and confectionery by 3pm. So glad i dont do that anymore lol. I take a few supplements and am investigating more.

Thanks man. 🫶

 

[Bobby Summa]

I don’t think @Progrez got that from Andrew Tate m8.. I think he’s just bringing up an interesting concept regarding the nature of reality

the idea of “a matrix” (so in the context of Tate, this is how the world works and this it’s structure). Is something widely adopted by many. The church utilises that concept in the worldstacking of heaven, earth, hell and the atonement of sin, feminism has its version with “the patriarchy” etc.

edit:
its actually a well accepted physics theory. The idea that our 3D universe is factually a holographic projection of an underlying 2D universe.

Holographic principle - Wikipedia

en.m.wikipedia.org

Bloody hell. That’s amazing. If I understand correctly our 3d Universe survives under a higher 2d universe.

Not being funny. ( but possibly being misled by my imagination too much lol).
Sometimes when i wonder about the source of things ( yah knaaaw like one does )
Ive found myself with all i can say feels like a memory. A place of existance where im just kinda floating but static. It seems more flat and 2d i think. It just feels uninhibited by the things we have in life and as far as i know theres no physical body to me there. I don’t feel / see it often. Quite open to the idea that its just my imagination but often these days i wonder if its like, my place or home or source of my spirit. The only feeling is all i can describe as peace and utterly pleasent and kinda calm normal bliss.
Anyway id better go write some music before people start avoiding my posts if they read that lol.