Quote Originally Posted by Gagi View Post
I'll explain it to you. He's the one that has been unfaithful, and then he proceed to lie you about it and make you feel guilty (even if you were right). So, he's the asshole. That's the explanation. Next time don't let someone make you feel guilty (you could've just simply said: "Are you trying to make me feel guilty even if you are the one that's guilty?", or something like that, it cuts the bullshit and he then knows you know what he's trying to do).

And the wanting thing... Go meet new people, you'll then realize that there are so many better guys.
I did say something like that after every little thing that he tried to make me feel guilty for. But you see, Ive been brain washed be4 by another guy who basically used to do the same thing..lie to me and then make out that it was my fault and there was a long period of time where I really believed that I was in the wrong. I put to much faith and trust in people and even when I know there are lying to me, I still question myself and wonder if its all just in my head.

And the guy in my first post was me "putting myself out there and meeting new people"

I was in a long term relationship be4 the guy in my first post came along and was even engaged but then one day the guy who I was engaged to met up with an ex on Facebook and then deiced to have an affair with her. So ofc that relationship was no more and it took me agesssss to get over that and get my head straight and when I finally did and got my life back on track, this other guy (dude in first post) comes along. And altho I really worried about opening myself up to this dude, everyone I knew told me to just go for it. It will do me good they said. Let myself be happy again they said...And so I did. I went for it and yea, this time I was the "other woman" ....