I thought women look for a man who can be a good provider for both money and status and someone who can bring in good social status as well. Over here, many women are choosing guys with money and especially the girls in my native country nowadays as the old ways have changed. They've become more westernised, like taking up alcohol, smoking and taking drugs and getting tattoos which I am not a fan.
Ok, relationshipadviser sociologyspecialist siegmundfreud Jetflag speaking here: who has 0 degrees on this subject and isn't exactly don Juan himself. So,take this with a massive pinch of salt, That being said and since we are on a predominatly male forum (fem trigger warning) and are speaking from personal experience:
here's my (blunt) take on it:
Women, on average are attracted to/ marry a man who is, (or places himself<and that part is important), in some way or another (slightly) above them. now again, this
could be in terms of status/wealth, but its not the prime attraction driver.
Biologically/evolutionairy speaking (so not culturally): its true that women look for strong genes/providers. However, since women do not have an instant DNA test-nose nor a means of finding out what the
actual status of man they meet is, aside from what
he shows/communicates too her, they test men in order to find out and (again on average) marry/ are attracted to those men who either are, (or place themselves) in some way or another (slightly) above them. now again, this
could be in terms of status/wealth, but its not the prime driver of attraction
men are (on average) mainly sexually attracted to physical traits (tits hips blush, youthfullness you name it) whereas women are mainly attracted to personality traits (is this man a potential leader? does he display confidence? does he take initiative? its he capable etc.)
There's plenty of guys who's younger wife outearns them, is prettier then them, yet those women still feel an attraction and it all boils down to their additude/demeaner/ communication. I didn't get to marry my wife because i'm such a pretty boy with lots of money and status. what I did do however is convince her in a very big nutshell that i'm at the very bare least, a reliable, strong (minded) invididual, who can take charge if neccesairy without being tyrannical and yes, who can provide for the offspring, in case she loses her income or decides to quit. Now things like humor and personal hygiëne and what not also play a part ofcourse, but you get my drift I hope.
To give you a very cruel example in the real world:
The girl of the A* jobless, ugly brute who on occasion even beats her, on average feels more sexual/physical attraction to him, then the girl who's just had a date with a B* pretty metro-man driving a Tesla who places her on a massive pedastal, 5 minutes into the date. (and this is, in case you where wondering, the reason why women so often return or want to return to their abusive husbands/loverboys, and why, in the sexual market, "nice guys" finish last. terrible and unfair as that may be)
What is noticable here is that the aforementioned stereotypical loverboys are
very good at
faking (personality) virtues in order to generate loads and loads of attraction to the girls he seeks to abuse. This is a terrible, but nontheless very succesfull strategy that any decent/non abusive male that wants a nice reciprocal reationship with a girl can employ, even though he is not high on the hierarchical ladder.
That's my biggest problem, I am not interesting to be around. People repel me not because they mean to but I just like being quiet and I do have social anxiety when I around certain people. Whether it be at work or what not and I can tell when people have various levels of depression. From their point of view, they think I don't love myself enough
so,
make yourself more interresting to be around.
Grow stronger,
train your confidence, you can train your mind in the same way you can train your body,
you're already working on your (emotional) self control via meditation so thats a big plus already.
also. you being the introvert/quite type isn't neccesairly a bad thing attraction wise.. The quiet, reserved, "mysterious" man is (in my experience at least) often more attractive for women then the hyper-extrovert soy-boy constantly trying to get attention from everyone.
my 2 cents.
also. In reference to what you're looking for in a partner. Setting priorities/ lowering your standards to match accordingly makes things easier. remember, you can generate attraction with women who look up to you or what you communicate to them. That doesn't mean you can 1 attract
all women you lay your eyes on no matter how confident and "skilled" you are and 2. the higher you aim the harder you make things for yourself.